TMI Tuesday #183

1. Marriage and children aside, what has been your greatest accomplishment in life?

Still being here after all these years.

2. Aside from healthy and happy children, what is your greatest ambition for the future?

To finish all the needlework projects I began for all my loved ones before I die.

3. If we were to enter your real name in a search engine, what would we find?

I googled it and found a couple of reviews on Amazon.

4. Who is the most famous person you ever met (not just in the same room as, but actually spoke with)?

I believe I answered this on a previous meme--Bob Dole.

5. Parents aside, who is your biggest hero?

You didn't disallow grandparents, so I am saying my grandmother. I've always wanted to be as sweet and loving as she was.

6. Someone once worked out the sexual version of Six Degrees of Separation - Celebrity A slept with B, who slept with C, who slept with D, making as sort of connection between A and D. Are you connected to anyone famous through six or fewer bonks?

I seriously doubt it. I suppose it could be true, but how would I ever know?

TMI Tuesday #182: Dance Edition

1. If you could describe your personality through a dance what would it be?

A waltz--old-fashioned and being led by the man.

2. What about describing your sex life through a type of dance?

Well, right now, it would be the wallflower waiting for someone to ask her to dance.

3. What's one move on the dance floor sure to turn you on?

Watching the Paso Doble tends to turn me on.

4. Is there a dancer you would love to be with? (Dancer can be used as loosely as you want!)

i want to do a horizontal Paso Doble with A.

5. What moves do you pull out to impress someone new?

It has been so long since i have been dancing that i don't know if i can remember any moves. i always preferred slow dancing and being held in the man's arms, so the moves would have been the man's anyway.

TMI Tuesday #181

1. Have you ever had a sexual experience with the opposite sex?

Yes. (The creator of this week's questions says that this was supposed to read 'same sex' instead of 'opposite sex'. My answer to whether i have ever had a sexual experience with the same sex is 'no.')

2. When you see someone you like, how do you act, how do you get their attention?

It has been so long since that has happened, but i suppose i would just smile at them. i'm not very artful with these kinds of things. i'm a responder, not an initiator.

3. Dominate or dominated, which do you prefer?

Most definitely dominated.

4. Would you/ Have you ever had a threesome?

i was subjected to one once that was not completely consensual. i submitted because i was afraid it would happen anyway and be even more traumatic if i didn't submit to it. It was two men much bigger and stronger than i was. i was dating one of them and really liked and trusted him, and we were actually in the middle of sex when i noticed his friend had come into the room, and i kept asking the guy i was with to tell his friend to get out, but he just kept saying to let him watch. i started to realize what they had planned, and i felt really sick. i ended up just zoning out and don't have much of a memory of anything after that until i was safely away, and then i cried a lot. The one i had been dating actually called me the next day and wanted to get together. i told him he was crazy and that i never wanted to see him or his creepy friend ever again.

5. When was the last time you had sex?

With myself, a few days ago. With someone else, about 3 months ago, and that relationship was one big gigantic mistake. On top of everything else that was bad about it, the sex was the absolute worst ever.

6. Sex on the first date...good or bad?

Bad.

7. Do you have any random or out of the ordinary turn ons?

Facial and body hair on men, well, on my man; i'm not turned on when i see it on some random guy, but i like seeing it and feeling it on the man i am with. The smell of Drakkar Noir also has a potent effect on me. Being directed and dominated by the man i am with turns me on, whatever form it takes at any given time. And for some reason, being called 'baby' gets to me, too.

8. What attributes attract you to a potential partner.

Masculinity, intelligence, strength of character, dominance, voice, smile, humor.

TMI Tuesday #180

1. Have you ever sent or received a sext message?

No, i don't even have a cell phone.

2. Have you ever made or received a booty call?

No, unless you count getting one from a husband.

3. Have you ever added or edited a word/entry to Wikipedia or Urban Dictionary or any other online reference?

i once corrected an incorrect Scripture reference in a Wikipedia article. Can't remember what the article was about, though.

4. At what age did you have your first consensual sexual experience?

At 13 with an 18-year-old i thought i was going to marry, but that never happened. And my first husband was still verbally bludgeoning me about that (him not being the first) 17 years later and also told our children about it during the divorce to try to prove what a 'slut' i was. He even used the fact that i had had sex with him before we got married to try to convince them how awful i was and to try to turn them against me. What an asswipe.

5. What has been the greatest age difference between you a consensual sexual partner?

i was 32, he was 21, so 11 years difference.

TMI Tuesday #179

1. Ever Googled a date, a potential date or an ex?

i googled an ex once. i didn't find him, but i found a whole bunch of stuff about his brother, who is in politics.

2. Do you gossip?

i do sometimes before i realize i'm doing it, and then i stop, but most of the time i avoid it in the first place.

3. How many people do you completely trust?

i don't think there is anyone i trust fully and completely. But i have learned to be open and vulnerable in spite of that, knowing that i could be betrayed at any time. We have to take risks in all kinds of relationships if we want to have healthy connections with others.

4. Have you ever had sex in a car?

Yes, and it is not the best place for it unless maybe you have a van with a bed in the back.

5. What is your best flirting technique: innuendo, telling a dirty joke, talking about sex life, or physical contact?

i don't think i consciously flirt. i enjoy being friendly and am genuinely interested in a person i am attracted to, so i just go with my feelings. i may do any and all of those things listed in the question in that context without really thinking about it.

Bonus (as in optional): How many times is the most you have ever had sex in a 24 hour period?

Oh gosh, it's hard to remember an exact number. i think it was probably something like 4 or 5 times within 24 hours.

TMI Tuesday #178

1. Don't tell us what it is, but do you have a sexual secret you have never told anyone?

No, i'm pretty sure all has been told.

2. Do you have a nonsexual secret you have never told anyone?

Again, no. i tend to be an open book, at least with people i trust.

3. Did you ever tell someone a secret only to have them spill it? What were the repercussions?

Someone probably did somewhere along the way, but i don't remember anything specific, so the repercussions must not have been a big deal.

4. Did you ever spill a secret someone told you? What were the repercussions?

i probably have done this, too, but again, i don't remember, so it must not have caused any big problems, or i think i would remember. i try to keep private things private, especially if someone asks me to.

5. Tell us a secret someone told you, however along ago, that you've never told. (You can disguise name or details)

The only thing i can think of right now is that someone confided in me that they smoke pot.

TMI Tuesday #177

1. Are you pro-marriage? Why or why not?

Yes, i consider myself pro-marriage, but i do not advocate getting a governmental marriage license. i don't think the government belongs in marriage. i know a lot of people think it protects the children especially, but these days child support is ordered regardless of whether or not the parents were ever married with a license. Whether a person keeps their commitments or not has to do with who they are, not the possession of a piece of paper.

2. Have you ever invented or thought you invented a sexual position?

With all the books and art of all kinds going back to ancient times depicting seemingly every possible sexual position, it would be hard to imagine someone coming up with something new, so i'd have to say no on that one.

3. Do you like to be tied up? Always or sometimes?

Yes, i like being tied up, and i am weighing in with 'sometimes'. i also like doing other things, so 'always' would make it impossible to do other things i like.

4. Do you consider online cybering adultery?

i wouldn't go so far as to call it adultery, but if one's partner doesn't know about it, it very well could be considered a betrayal by them, especially if their partner is doing that instead of having real sex with them.

5. Do you prefer masturbation over real sex?

Definitely not!

6. Do you want sex more times a day than your partner?

i'm going to have to base this on my last partner, and i have to say 'yes' since his preference was 0 times a day too often, and i generally like to have sex at least once a day.

7. Do you get offended when your partner openly flirts with others or are you okay with it?

It depends on the type of flirting. If it is just a friendly kind of thing with a little teasing that's not too personal or focused, that doesn't bother me, but if it seems like there's a genuine interest in that particular person above and beyond the usual type of friendly flirting, then it would probably hurt my feelings.

8. Do you think you're flirty by nature?

i think i'm more friendly than flirty. i have no problem striking up conversations with strangers of either gender. i don't get very flirty unless i'm interested in that particular person, which is probably why i answered question 7 the way i did.